“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”
We hear this quote, or one quite similar to it all the time, whenever something bad happens in our lives. The breakup of a relationship, the loss of a job, whenever those things happen, someone will invariably pull out this phrase, nodding wisely as if they are imparting the most important piece of wisdom in the universe. We hear the phrase often, but do we ever really listen to it, think about what it means, follow its words?
It was last year, I was turned down on something I would really love to have. Like as if this job will make my life better... At the time, it seemed like the end of my world. I moped around, did nothing but lament telling myself that I was never really good enough, and generally make everyone around me miserable. Of course, someone pulled out the old “when one door closes ...” phrase, and of course, I merely rolled my eyes like I had every other time I’d heard it. But later on, when I was alone, I heard those same words again, and I thought about them. I decided that instead of continuing to look at the closed doors, I’d look at the world through different eyes. I decided to look for those doors around that might be opening, to keep an open mind and explore whatever opportunities that presented themselves. I decided that what the hell—I had nothing to lose, right?
So that’s what I did. I continued working, I did things beyond my duty, I talked to people. I got on with my life. And you know what? Eventually, other doors did open, and had I not kept an open mind, they would have passed me by unnoticed. But instead, I saw each open door for what it was, took a deep breath, and walked on through. And I cannot say that for one second that I’ve regretted that decision.
For those of you going through something that it seems you cannot get through, let me share what I’ve finally learned at twenty-five ...
Whatever it is you’re stuck on, let it go. Look to your future. We will always see the past as better than it was, the present as worse than it is, and the future as more unclear than it truly will be. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past. You can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
Be open to new opportunities, new friendships, new loves. Trust in the fact that everything happens for a reason. It’s a cliché, it’s trite and overused, but generally it’s true. You never know what lies around the next corner - it could be the love of your life, the job of your dreams, or anything in between. Don’t close your heart or mind to that possibility.
Be happy.
The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything, they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy NOW. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether its with friends or with your family.
Be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do. Dream what you want to dream. Go where you want to go. Life is too short to spend it hoping to change the unchangeable, and wanting what you cannot have.
Don’t waste your life looking at that closed door and hoping that it will magically reopen. Ninety-nine percent of the time, it won’t. Instead, look for those doors that are opening around you all the time. Find that open door meant for you, and go through it. You never know what awaits you on the other side.
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